Saturday, February 03, 2007

Whole Men Move Together

This quote from Mr MacLaren arose in the mind today which people may recognise from the early material:

“In truth, each is made whole, in truth all are united. No happiness is like to that in which the reasoning powers, the feeling powers and the active powers move together, manifesting the truth in man. No happiness is like to that in which whole men move together, manifesting the truth in all of them, showing unity in diversity and permanence in change.”

We could take the second sentence to be applicable to many situations but it can be quite obviously applied to the school itself. The phrase that sticks out here, and hence the title of this post, is ‘whole men’. It is interesting to watch those who appear to have found their niche. There is an integrity, autonomy and independence. They appear to be allowing the seeds of their own nature to come to fruition. And the fruition is not egotistical and separatist but the expression of who they are in service of something greater. This is perhaps an aspect of sva-dharma, one’s own duty? Each needs to become himself and manifest this. Not become someone else who he ‘should’ be. There is a quote from the Buddhist tradition:

‘What are you so feverishly running after? Putting a head on top of your own head, you blind idiots! Your head is right where it should be. Your trouble lies in your not believing in yourselves enough. Because you don’t believe in yourselves you are knocked here and there by all the conditions in which you find yourselves. Being enslaved and turned around by objective situations, you have no freedom whatever, you are not masters of yourselves.”

~ Lin Chi (Rinzai) ... click "Read more"

So perhaps it is necessary that we believe in ourselves, or ‘become ourselves’ before we can come into right relationship with another or become ‘one’ as a body of people? This can’t happen as long as we don’t trust ourselves. We are pulled here and there by various advice and opinions of varying degrees of insight. We can try to deny ourselves to ‘fit in’ but this ultimately fails. We cannot be true to someone else if we aren’t being true to ourselves. “Above all else to thine own self be true…” as the saying goes.

Related to this is the basic premise of Jonathan Sacks’ book, “Dignity of Difference” which I would summarise as follows:

If we are firm in our beliefs and we know what we stand for then if the person next to us believes something radically different then it ‘phases’ us not in the slightest. If however our beliefs are secretly quite shaky and superficial then we either:

- become defensive or
- preach / convert others to remove disagreement so that we feel 'safe'

If one begins to see through this and the underlying bhavanaa, then surely it becomes impotent? Do we then begin to develop a kind of ‘psychological kevala’ an autonomy based upon a refusal to be pushed around by others’ ideas? This is not a rejection of principle or tradition, rightly understood. Nor is it advocating individual desire being placed higher than discipline. Autonomy means self-governance. Perhaps something that this individual has some work to do to achieve. But the ideal is recognised - become whole, allow others to do so according to their temperament, and 'move together'.

5 comments:

Kevin said...

Kapila

I couldn't agree more with what you're saying here. It really is a bit like finding a niche ... and the funny thing is that the niche turns out to be much bigger than the place you were before, and keeps expanding.

This is all that has been missed, I think. We have thrown out the baby self with the ego bathwater. Of course neither the ego nor the self can be thrown out. There has to be a willingness to be oneself, for richer or for poorer, rather than trying to transplant an alien concept in place of one's heart.

In practical terms, I think we all need to learn a little (civil) disobedience. In my own case, the decision to move out of London had to be taken against the (unasked-for) advice of the School, and in the face of dire warnings from St James teachers, etc. ("the Big Bad World"!!) After 3 1/2 years I would have to say that not a day goes by when I do not reflect on how glad I am that I did not listen.

Obedience and duty is really important, but it's been overemphasised at the expense of other things, such as self-sufficiency, creativity and enquiry.

According to HH, the effect of good company on a person is to "make them self-sufficient, steadfast, upright and independent" (1991). Now, I think that we have fully realised the "steadfast, upright" aspect of this, but on "self-sufficient" and "independent" it is a case of "must try harder".

Brackenbury Residents Association said...

This is terrific stuff, Kapila, not least because it is so recognisable.

We've no doubt all been in situations where our beliefs have been 'challenged' and our response has been defensive or argumentative (I love that bit about doing so to feel 'safe' - how true). What HH calls the barking dogs in the mind.

We also know what it is to feel truely confident of what we know, the happiness of service and the unity of being one.

And the indifference to others' opinions, not because we're indifferent to them, but because opinions don't really matter. There's a greater light.

Truely an integrity and autonomy. We may not always seem to have access to this - often don't - but it's very recognisable and those in whom it is firmly seated are most worthy of respect.

Nick said...

We once had a practise on a residential to go out in the garden and try and find something which was separate. I found myself observing plants, and though I could reason that each of them drew up the same minerals through their roots and were fed energy by the same sun - there were still recognisable forms. A tree is a tree, not a blade of grass or a rhododendron bush. Something is held in form otherwise what would be experienced would be one big homogenous soup?

Sri Ramana, when asked about the individual, used the analogy of the moon being out during the day. It isn't the source of light. The sun is. But it doesn't go away either. Just seen in context.

~~~

Then the "night candle" rose into the sky
and one drunk creature, laying down his instrument,
said to his friend ~ for no apparent
Reason,

"What should we do about that moon?"

Seems to Hafiz
Most everyone has laid aside the music

Tackling such profoundly useless
Questions.

~ Hafiz (Tr. Daniel Ladinsky)

Anonymous said...

But is 'belief' necessary? Isn't a belief related to past and future? What IS now doesn't have to be believed. It just is.

'Standing firm' sounds like a bad idea. Standing bendy might work better. Then you can respond without judgement to what is, now.

Nick said...

Hi Diogenes

Yes, I agree. The notions of 'belief' and 'taking a stand' from the place of a particular conclusion are problematic. We sometimes run out of adequate words. This isn't what I meant to imply. I think it is more 'approach' rather than 'belief' that we need to learn to be mutually respectful of. As long as the intention is towards what is true and good?