Thursday, January 25, 2007

Flow

Tonight is the first meeting of The No-Novels Book Group ... we have been reading Flow by the unpronounceable Hungarian psychologist. His central thesis is that "flow" is the secret to happiness. It sounds pretty much like sattva - it's the experience of being "in the zone" between the anxiety of overwhelming stress and the boredom of unchallenging circumstances. We find challenges that suit our present level of skills, and as we develop we raise the bar to keep things interesting.

One point struck me by its relevance to this blog. There are said to be two societal obstacles to happiness - anomie, which is the feeling of aimlessness that arises in a society without strong ethical norms; and alienation, which is the feeling of individual irrelevance that arises in a society with overpowering ethical norms.

As it happens His Holiness says something very similar in the 1991 Conversations, where he says "Each disciple must find balance within the disciplines so that he is neither ill-prepared nor over-powered". The assumption he makes, of course, is that the disciplines themselves allow this to happen easily and naturally. My own assumption is that our disciplines do not match perfectly the ones he is talking about. Click "read more!" to continue ...

I don't think it would be difficult to diagnose which of the two problems we face. We do not lack guidelines in the School; we have a lot of those, and many people join, I imagine, because it provides something that our society lacks in this regard. The School is a protection against Western anomie. So we would expect that if there are problems, they would come from excessive alienation of individual members and groups, from feeling that their own contribution is of very little relevance to the overall organization. No matter what I think or feel, certain things will never vary. I heard a senior lady remark recently that she felt that it did not matter in the least to the School whether she stayed or left. This is alienation.

This is beginning to be addressed. Students now have more personal choice, whether it is on major issues such as whether to attend a weekend or not, or on minor, but important matters such as what to wear. The danger is that, as history tells us, revolutions take place not when things are getting worse, but when they are getting better. The repressed individual suddenly wakes up to what has been happening all these years, and instead of being grateful for the moderation of discipline, storms off angrily.

So if we are going to reduce alienation, we need a corresponding strengthening of our principles. It is not enough to change the dress code and make a single (almost incomprehensible) announcement. People have given their lives to dressing as if they worked for a 1950s accountancy firm, or had a disfiguring birthmark on the lower calf. They cannot simply be expected to change this without it changing how they feel and think about the School. Are we going forward? Are we retreating in the face of pressure? What is the principle that was important then that we have now refined?

This is a time for leadership.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

There WAS no principle. It was just Mr MacLaren's Canute-like desire to preserve the Victorian ways he had grown up with. 'Principles' got invented 'post hoc' to justify his edicts. The result was, among other things, a huge denial of sexuality.

Just be thankful that sense is beginning to prevail.

Kevin said...

Hi Diogenes,

Well, maybe the main issue is that every change should be a move towards a finer principle. Would you agree with that?

PS The old Part 1 material (which I started on) mentions sexuality in week 3, promising that 'this most powerful force' will be dealt with at a later time. 20 years on, I am still waiting!!

Anonymous said...

Ah yes, discussion about anomie makes me quite misty-eyed. I well recall dear old Durkheim from my university days and his propositions about anomie - quite exciting to an eighteen-year-old.

The School certainly puts anomie in its place - banished outside the door. If you have a sense of 'belonging', and being sustained, then that's the cue that anomie is not a problem.

Alienation? Just as painful and dislocating - the other side of the coin to anomie. It's a sense that it doesn't much matter whether you stay or go so you might as well be comfortable. If the aims of the organisation bypass you, and are not frequently renewed, if decisions are taken out of your hands, if you lose the 'point', if the love has dissipated, it's easy to feel like a cork bobbing in someone else's pond.

It's not even necessary to storm off angrily, though it happens (cf. St James).

Given that there has been no redefinition of a principle, e.g., on the dress code, one can only suppose that, as Diogenes says, it was Mr Maclaren's desire to preserve the times of his childhood that has been quietly given back. There may be no principle at hand here, in which case I'd be very grateful if nobody invented one.

But it's great that the hemline police are no longer on the prowl.

Kevin said...

There is always a principle, I think, even if it is something as basic as "it's good for people to come under authority".

Nick said...

The Shankaracarya (quoted by Kevin):

"Each disciple must find balance within the disciplines so that he is neither ill-prepared nor over-powered".


I struggled to put this in the context of the subject of the post? I would understand it to mean:

- if we do not engage in the disciplines then we will be ill-prepared to meet the challenges life throws at us. We will lose our centre and get dragged into things and situations.

- if we engage with the disciplines (eg, meditation) with great intensity then we may well be overwhelmed by the energies that are released.


Relating this also to the comments made about sexuality, I wouldn't wish to deny or relax principle at the level of social interaction. But how to deal with ‘this most powerful force’, as also described here by a disciple in the Sivananda tradition:

“As I continue meditation, layer after layer of impurities keep rising from the subconscious mind. Sometimes they are so strong and formidable that I am bewildered as to how to check them.”

Do others also experience the above? Or is it just my sanskara? Or does no-one consider it a problem?

As regards the lady who felt ‘that it did not matter in the least to the School whether she stayed or left’: Who does she mean by ‘the school’ in this regard? Who is it who is going to come and personally thank her for all her hard work? Presumably some authority figure or other and not every member of the school? I thought praise and blame were both impostors? Can we not find some nobler reason for doing something than wanting appreciation? The more this is examined the more its validity evaporates. If the devotion is to God and not to the organisation then this problem need never arise?

Kevin said...

What the Shankaracharya is saying (as I understand it) is that if we take on too little discipline we are ill-prepared, but if we take on too much, we are overpowered. It is a variation on the "potter's two hands" analogy, I suppose.

Kapila, I don't think you're alone there. My observation of various members of my own group over 20 years (and I suppose they saw the same with me) is that marriage usually appears to cause them to chill out and normalise. This seems a bit strange for such spiritual people (ahem!) but there is no getting away from it - sexual frustration is a major cause of weirdness. I'm not sure if it afflicts women in the same way, but I imagine it does.

I think that there are a rare few people about who can sublimate sexuality, but the majority of us cannot and must live with it.

Your quotation refers to impurity, and I don't know if I would see it like that. There is a tradition of sexual abstinence in the East, but I don't think sexuality in the East carries anything like the same heavy weight of sin and guilt that we associate with it.

So I would come back to what His Holiness is saying ... we need to find a balance between too much and too little discipline. He says elsewhere that for someone like him, there is a measure of sensual enjoyment that is almost nil, whereas for someone else the necessary measure for survival is much more liberal.

I think you are being a bit hard on the lady in question - OK, it's a cry from the heart from her. One of the good things about the School is that we all feel a part of something larger; and that we feel ourselves to be an integral part, connected to all the others by ties of service, devotion and interdependence, and not just an irrelevant cog. I don't think she was looking for praise or thanks; she wanted to feel that there was a reason for her to be a member. HH speaks a lot about good company as being the key, and I think this is an example of feeling cut off from that.

Anonymous said...

Kapila - if the lady in question - and others like her, feel that somehow or other their presence (word used advisedly)is no longer valued, then there's a problem.

It may well be that it's a secondary problem, inasmuch as if she was connected to the work then the valuation of herself would not be an issue. There I would agree with you.

Anonymous said...

Kevin - do tell us about the No-Novels Book Group.

Nick said...

Kevin

The fact that, as you say, no-one has seriously dealt with the subject in a serious way in 20 years...I don't know if this is a problem. Do I really want to attend a lecture on the subject...not really.

It's tricky because there are particular experiences here and it wouldn't be fair or right to discuss them with married folk. Let's just say - I feel like I am being confronted with a choice. I don't think I hear the word impurity in the way you hear it though. I think we could perhaps just take it to mean something that is distracting to the mind when it should be somewhere else.

Nick said...

Re: Our hard working lady friend, I pretty much always thank people at the end of a work session if I am IC. I find it hard to suggest a principle here though. Shouldn't the gratitude arise naturally and be expressed? Again, if we are 'practising ' something we will end up sounding like a customer service rep!

I don't know about anyone else but I always get outpourings of gratitude for something that took me 2 minutes and I didn't given much attention to. Conversely, if I slave over something for ages then get a few tiny details wrong, I get a barrage of criticism. I think this is just the universe's way of telling us to get beyond praise and blame...

Kevin said...

Kapila

Well, that was what I meant about 'impurity' - it is my understanding of it.

Laura

Most book groups appear to be dedicated to novels, but after many years of loving the novel, I have turned against them. Maybe reading too many bad ones from 'slush piles'.

Anyway, we had a nice time at the Sanctuary Cafe, Hove, with Flow, which most of us felt was interesting if not a great read. The book doesn't exhibit the quality of Flow very well (not so much as it does egotism anyway). Then we read some of the mind experiments from "The Pig That Wants To Be Eaten", which was good fun.

Next up we are going to read "Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking" by Malcolm "Tipping Point" Gladwell.

There's a brilliantly entertaining 15 minute lecture by him on YouTube (the quality of the film is excellent, by the way).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIiAAhUeR6Y

It explains why we are not good at expressing what we want.

Anonymous said...

I loved the YouTube video about Malcolm Gladwell. Americans are so good at this - at examining assumptions and being free with it. Do we often not look for extra chunky??!

Certainly, I've found that, if asked straight out, I may well not give a honest answer. At least, not verbally. Even though I'd really like to.

That is the beauty of hearing someone like him speak, free of moral precepts, just exploring the possibilities.

If you like that you may well also like.....


THE MAN WHO MISTOOK HIS WIFE FOR A HAT

Here Dr. Sacks recounts the case histories of patients lost in the bizarre, apparently inescapable world of neurological disorders: people afflicted with fantastic perceptual and intellectual aberrations; patients who have lost their memories and with them the greater part of their pasts; who are no longer able to recognize people and common objects; who are stricken with violent tics and grimaces or who shout involuntary obscenities; whose limbs have become alien; who have been dismissed as retarded yet are gifted with uncanny artistic or mathematical talents.

If inconceivably strange, these brilliant tales remain, in Dr. Sacks's splendid and sympathetic telling, deeply human. They are studies of life struggling against incredible adversity, and they enable us to enter the world of the neurologically impaired, to imagine with our hearts what it must be to live and feel as they do.


Dr. Sacks on Hat:
Short narratives, essays, parables about patients with a great range of neurological and neuropsychiatric conditions, written in a lighter, more informal style than I had ever used before. To my intense surprise (my publisher's too!) this book hit some nerve in the reading public, and became an instant best-seller.


Praise for The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat:
"A provocative introduction to the marvels of the human mind...."

--Clarence E. Olsen, St. Louis Post Dispatch


"Dr. Sacks's best book....One sees a wise, compassionate and very literate mind at work in these 20 stories, nearly all remarkable, and many the kind that restore one's faith in humanity."

-- Noel Perrin , Chicago Sun-Times


"Dr. Sack's most absorbing book....His tales are so compelling that many of them serve as eerie metaphors not only for the condition of modern medicine but of modern man."

Kevin said...

I've read that book. I recently discovered that Magritte-like painting on the cover is by Paul Slater, a regular at AinA and who did a talk last year.